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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
The people who resent boundaries are usually narcissistic boundary stompers. Think about it. If someone says "no that's not a good time for me" why would you want to bother them? If someone prefers you only visit for a week, not 2, why on earth would you insist on 2| People have jobs, stresors, a million things going on. it takes a whole lot of self-absorption to assume the world revolves around you.

Absolutely. If you don't want to hear the word "boundary" then don't keep ignoring other people's feelings or statements and put them in position where they have to say it to you. It only comes up because some people refuse to take into consideration other people's concerns and put themselves first. [/quote]

+10000 I ever understand what people meant by others crossing boundaries until I interacted with DH's aunt. She is an evil combination of a narcissist and a moocher. Saying no to her is taken as a personal offense and she doubles down on badgering, manipulating and being obsessed with whatever said no about to her. We finally had to cut all contact with her when she kept escalating.

With all the other relatives, everything is fine. DH and I are actually pretty flexible and have no problem compromising. The difference is that they do not push if it is something that we either really do not want to do or can't do. They don't take advantage of our willingness to compromise. They do not make unreasonable demands or try to inject themselves inappropriately into our lives.

If you are hearing the word "boundary" from someone else then you need to step back and realize that you have been pretty darn rude and inappropriate for the other party to get the point of having to sit you down and say no more. It doesn't matter one bit that you THINK you are just giving love and want to surround their children with a circle of love. You're not. You're hyper focused on your own entitlement and wants. You're toxic and the kids are better off without you being around them. [/quote]

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