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[quote=Anonymous]Oh dear lord, stop enabling him! He needs to be covering his share of expenses, even if it means that he gets a second or third job. Instead, it sounds like he just has his head in the sand and is letting you handle everything without regard to the impact on you. This man will make a terrible partner! He has shown you his true self, and now you know that doesn’t take responsibility for his actions. That you’ll be the only adult in the relationship. And that instead of being grateful for what you do he’ll be a passive aggressive jerk in order to justify in his mind his inabilities. Why would you waste any more time in this relationship? Find a new place to live and tell him that you are moving out to give him space to get it together. You don’t need to make a specific decision about whether the wedding is off right now, but he needs to show you that he can make serious changes to his life before it is rescheduled. And I’ll talking about over the course of a good 18-24 months. He can’t just behave well for a few months and get you to agree to marry him. He has to show you that he really has changed.

There’s probably a 90% chance that he’ll blame you and never do anything to change, and you’ll move on and find someone else to marry. But given your history together, the right thing is to give him a little more time. [/quote]

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