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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Call them out in the moment. 
“Mom, please don’t talk about other children. So anyway Sally, do you think it’s gong to rain later.”

“Mom, we don’t talk about birthday parties around other families. You have no idea who’s invited or not. Wow, look! sally almost got a goal!”

“I’ll answer your question when I finish talking here with Madge.” Then turn your body towards Madge.

Rinse and repeat. Do not engage. [/quote]

maybe they need a standing dinner with you all every other week so they can get their gossip talk out then. And if they do show up at bday parties, games, school shows they need to be on civil behavior. Just tell them that. [/quote]

I seriously doubt this would work. OP’s parents have no filter. They are responding in the moment. It would be like asking a kid with ADHD to hold off for a few days and then respond to all the distractions. 
The only way to address this is the respond IN THE MOMENT with a calm, succinct response. Over and over. The issue that OP needs to get over is that she thinks this type of response is going to embarrass her and her parents. It won’t. As someone posted above, it’s all in the delivery. I think OP would benefit from going to therapy if only to practice role playing it with someone. The only response she knows to give  her parents is an emotional one later, after her resentment is sky high. Instead, by giving a quick response in a neutral tone and then pivoting to a different topic, she can keep herself calm and not give her parents the drama. 
Hopefully OP can give a real try. [/quote]

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