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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he is outsourcing by having stepmom transport and you are upset at him outsourcing, so you never have had a babysitter, family member or friend help out?  I highly doubt that.  So, its ok for you but not for them.[/quote]

Not at all the same. OP does the vast majority of the parenting. She’s entitled to help. [/quote]

It is the same.  Both parents are entitled to help.  Why should mom be entitled to help but not Dad?  You are looking for reasons to set the situation up for failure.  There is a huge difference between a babysitter and stepmom.  The preference should be a stepmom who is willing over a stranger/babysitter.[/quote]

And she is doing the vast majority of parenting as she refuses their requests/shared time.[/quote]

Did you miss the part where OP offered more time and dad declined? It seems like there are a few people here who always jump to conclusions and assume the divorced mom is always in the wrong.

The choice here isn’t over stepmom or babysitter. It’s mom, dad, or stepmom. If dad needs help, why wouldn’t mom be the obvious choice? [/quote]

We aren't seeing the entire picture.  It sounds like Dad agreed but said stepmom would need to pick up and Mom refused that.  Dad is probably working and has to work to pay child support and his own household needs.  Mom gets child support and her income so its much easier on her financially.   Some people don't have flexible jobs.  [/quote]

OP here. You aren’t seeing the whole picture; good job on creating a fantasy not based on facts.  My ExH did not agree to spending more time with his daughter. The schedule has not changed and before the new wife came into the picture, he never once voiced a concern about having trouble with pickups and drop offs. This is not about flexible schedules; he has simply found a way to get out of doing this thing by outsourcing it. At face value, there’s nothing wrong with stepmom picking up DD, but there is seemingly no reason for it. [/quote]

And you outsource with school, daycare and babysitters. [/quote]

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