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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who cares. I would love your setup. A handful of times? Try them asking to come over before they’ve even left the house from the last visit. [/quote]

I care for a lot of reasons including that my first child died at the age of 2.5 years,[b] so I’m very aware of the fragility of life and how much time we have (or don’t have with loved ones),[/b] and my children love seeing and spending time with their grandparents. I grew up less than 10 minutes from both sets of my grandparents, so I saw them frequently and we never had to worry about “travel” for visits. I know and respect that visits with family can be challenging, but it can also be really wonderful. [b]I guess i’m just struggling with the idea that my in-laws don’t seem to want to spend time with their grandchildren (despite what they say), unless my husband and I put in all the effort to make it happen. Didn’t know if this was a normal thing among grandparents or if ours are just special![/b][/quote]

I'm really sorry for your loss.

Grandparents vary in how much work they are willing to put in, and it seems like your situation makes you feel even more keenly how little your ILs are willing to do. That sucks.

Find some way to accept their norm. If they're willing to come up periodically, enjoy it when they do, and roll with it.

And, what does your DH think? Does he want to see his parents more? Does he communicate with them about planning visits? [/quote]

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