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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also have a child with special needs, which are speech and language based.  He attends an inclusive SN pre-school with NT kids and kids who have much more profound needs.  Guess what - everyone there adopts an attitude of kindness and taking care of each other.  Couldn't you teach your children to try to be a bit more accommodating and kind?  These are your neighbors and he is a neighborhood child.  Try to take better care of each other.  He should not be bothering YOU, and that is a boundary issue for the care giver, but I think it is awful to teach your kids to avoid or ignore him - truly awful.  Have a conversation with them about inclusion and help them think of some ways they can all have fun. [/quote]
Teaching children to be kind is important. However, don’t teach them to be inclusive at all costs. They are children and should be able to express and pursue  their wants and needs as well. [/quote]

Where did I say "inclusion at all costs?"  The child is different.  It's good for kids to be able to handle situations where people are different.  How about saying kindly, "sorry Larlo, we are playing football right now and we don't want to change the game.  Do you want to be the scorekeeper?" Or whatever.  Be kind.  Instead OP is teaching her kids that the child is annoying and to ignore him. [/quote]

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