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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for all the feedback.

First, I never met these parents, or any of the other parents of any of the other 'camp' friends.  Second, I honestly didn't know what to expect with inviting these kids.  This is a Jewish camp, so everyone involved is Jewish.  Our older child was invited to several out of town Mitzvahs, and I never assumed that my spouse and I were invited.  We declined as travel for a weekend was not in the cards for us.

I will admit that I did not provide information about our hotel blocks for the out-of-town parents we don't know.  But one parent did email us to ask and I provided that information.  That parent also asked about any other kids from the camp from her geographic region and I provided those contacts and offered any help with logistics.

For this particular person, it's not like they reached out to us and asked nicely if they could attend, or reached out in general asking if they were invited or for recommendations on what would be appropriate for them to attend.  Rather, they just stated matter-of-fact, that she and her husband "will" attend.  Just like that.  And to be perfectly honest, they weren't invited.  And now, with an approach like that, I don't really want them there.  I don't even know their names.  I have their email from a camp roster, but I only know the camper's name, the parents names are not on the list.

Plus, we're now up to something like 4 kids from out of town who are coming to the party.  I wasn't really prepared to budget for 8 additional adult guests for this event -- and more if more choose to come.  And I don't really want 8 or more total and complete strangers at our party and in our pictures forever.  The families of the other 3 kids seem to have no issue with not coming.

So I'm inclined to politely let them know that they are welcome to join us at the service and for the luncheon following the service.  And suggest some restaurants near the party that they might enjoy during the party.  But I don't think I want them at the party.

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These are not good friends of your family or child so why on earth did you invite out of town people you never see.  I think its rude not to invite the parents.[/quote]

OP here:  Their child and my child are very good friends actually.  They have gone to sleep away camp together for several years in a row.   So that is one reason why the child was invited.   Also, we invited my child's entire camp bunk.  Since all the kids are in touch via email and social media, my child did not want to exclude any of the bunk-mates from being invited to the Mitzvah event.    We invited more than 2 dozen kids from our child's school without their parents either -- we don't know those parents either.  But our child invited their friends.   We invited our friends.   And we invited whole families where we all are friends with the whole family.

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