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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That’s because your play date “mom friends” were superficial friends.

Find some people that you have more in common with that kids the same age and learn to have deep, meaningful conversations beyond your kids, schools, strollers, etc. [/quote].

This.

I’m 52 with a 16 yr old.   I picked up — and kept — just two dear, true friends from the “play date at the park/pool” years. The rest of those pleasant women are ...I’m not sure where they are, actually.  I wish them well but I never really knew them.

Meanwhile — and to op’s curious point — my two actual friends from those years would be my friends even if their marriages were troubled or if “chickens came home to roost” (?!).  Because actual friends work through such trials.   [/quote]

Op here. So I’m 40 and we do still meet up occasionally but it is becoming less and less. I’m a social person and have always had friends. I feel I am bad at keeping in touch. My closest friend from college lives on the west coast. I flew out to celebrate bachelorette, bridal shower and be in her wedding but don’t talk on a normal basis. Closest friends from grad school are both childless. One is divorced and lives overseas and other is single in nyc. She was in my wedding and came to my baby shower and first birthday party but she is the one who seems uninterested in hanging out.

I had close professional colleagues but I’m currently a SAHM. Those work friends who I used to go out with all the time before kids are in different places or our spouses/kids never got along and we are busy. [/quote]

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