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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You may be like my sister.  Wonderful person but since her kids were born her entire life was about them.  That's all she talked about and any interests always tied back to something to do with the kids.  Her husband was similar when they were little, but as they got older he realized the importance of having his own life.  So he got his own interests and became a much more fun person.   My sister kind of double downed when her oldest went to college.  Her poor husband thought it meant they could do more things has a couple, but she just overly invested in the younger child.  Well, 3 years later that kid got his license and wasn't as interested in mom.  Husband thought...oh good.  We can go back to having couple time, etc.  Nope, sister just got involved in her son's activities in other ways.   He went to college across.the country to get away from her.  Her daughter had moved closer but very much had her own life and was pretty private about involving her mom in it.

She fell into a depression. Her husband had given up trying to make them work as a couple.  She finally got therapy but it was too late.  The marriage was over and she had to learn to be her own person when she was 55.  They are still married.  Seem a tiny bit happier.

Obviously this is a worst case scenario.  But it's dangerous to have no identity outside of your kids.  They eventually grow up and don't need you as much.  And then who are you? [/quote]

Oh please you’re a bit of a jerk to act like that’s the next step for OP

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