Reply to 11 year old Son wants to be a Girl

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "11 year old Son wants to be a Girl"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tell my son that when he is 18, he can be or do whatever he wants, and you will support it then, but at 11, not happening under my roof.[/quote]

So you would not allow a 16 or 17 year old who has said for years she is trans to essentially suppress and hide it from you?  What good will that do except to show her your love is conditional and not openly giving and accepting?  You are okay with that?[/quote]

I think people like this are either pretending to be supportive or ignorant of what being trans is like.

Before I knew DS was trans, I assumed I’d be supportive but not necessarily allow medical procedures until adulthood. I’m bi, but I was fairly ignorant of the trans community and trans people’s needs. It turns out, it’s virtually impossible to be supportive and not allow hormones and other medical interventions. I mean, you can say you love and support, but it’s the equivalent of thoughts and prayers after a shooting. The actual support is in actions, and that includes helping your child’s outside match their inside. Telling a boy he can present as female while forcing him to go through puberty and become more masculine, irreversibly masculine, is cruel beyond words. Life is already hard enough for teens, more so for trans teens with supportive families. It’s torturous for trans kids who feel alone and unsupported.

It would be like saying you support your child being a musician but not allowing them to have an instrument or music lessons, and in some cases limiting their exposure to music because you’re afraid it will corrupt them. [/quote]

Except in this case, the medical/surgical route is harmful.   There are serious repercussions to putting kids on hormones.   Not just sterilization, but major impacts on their cognitive, cardiac and bone health.  And those are just known problems.  There is much we don’t know about the impact of putting kids on hormones and keeping them from experiencing puberty. [/quote]

Denying them medical treatment for a treatable condition is equally harmful in other ways. And the things you’re talking about are risks associated with hormone therapies, just the same as when menopausal women use them, when we vaccinate our children, let them play football, ride in cars, etc. No medication is risk free, but stop implying that kids who use hormones are destined to a life full of regrets, heart disease and cognitive impairment.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics