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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I lost my Dad in February, and it still feels surreal.  I still refer to "their" house, and not "my mom's" house.[/quote]
+1.  I'm the PP whose Dad died in 2001.  I inherited his little house in another city about two hours away, which I rent out.  I still call it "Dad's house."  I think my brother and I do that, too, e.g. "This weekend I drove by Dad's and the tree has gotten so big..."[/quote]

Same here. I still talk about "my parents" in the present tense. Like "my parents live in New York" when it's really jsut my mom.

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Me too.

It’s too weird to say my “mom’s house” because it was their home since 1974.  If I say “my mom’s house” it does not feel right or that my parents are merely divorced (they were married 52 years before he died).  My dad loved that house and it’s like a family member too.  He has a flower garden and vegetable garden and the patio he loved.

My sister said it’s weird because it’s like he was erased.  We had a family wedding and it was the first time the photo of all of us didn’t have him front and center.  He was larger than life and true patriarch.  He would have been so proud that his oldest grandson married.  The first one.  The photos are beautiful, but his absence in them is heartbreaking.  My kids are still very young so missed a lot.  It sucks.  I miss him so much.  I still expect to see him/talk to him.[/quote]

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