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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t want this to go to the explicit forum, so I’m purposely being vague to not violate the rules here.

DH doesn’t seem to be able to have some of his fantasies stay fantasy. This has been an issue our whole relationship (over 20 yrs.), but now that I am very clear about what my boundary is rather than being open to persuasion/coercion to do things that make me uncomfortable, he is constantly pushing against the boundary and using many of his old tactics of asking over and over, guilt-tripping, and criticizing. The things he wants are very out there in terms of everyday sex, so I’m not describing a withholding wife or lights-off only interactions.

My question is: how many of you have fantasies—either alone or jointly with your partner—that you don’t make a reality? I thought that was normal. I thought other couples talked about things or role-played or just imagined certain scenarios, but didn’t act on every single one of them, but this doesn’t seem to be possible for DH and I’m pretty unhappy about it.[/quote]

DH here:  I think it is perfectly normal to have fantasies stay fantasies, particularly those as exotic as you describe in this thread, which may be erotic but carry with them a host of risks.  Your DH is lucky you have been as willing to indulge them as you describe, and him pressuring you to go further than your (eminently reasonable) boundaries is not acceptable.  If he is an otherwise-good guy counseling might be productive here, as I suspect he may have lost perspective on how unreasonable his conduct is and an objective voice might help him clue in on that point. [/quote]

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