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[quote=Anonymous]I have kids about the same age (well, the same gap, but now a year on), so I totally understand the tension! Here is my perspective: 1- I agree with PPs that you should get more pump parts and bottle parts so that you never have to stay up to make sure they get a turn through the dishwasher. 2- Recognize that being at home with the baby is draining (even if it's also lovely), so be empathetic that he may want some downtime at night after bedtime (I certainly do, and I'm not even home with my kids anymore!) 3- That said, you need to chat with him about how to streamline the "home shift," preferably sometime when neither of you are in a big rush or cranky. Maybe the solution is to run the dishwasher 2x/day, or get your 3yr old plates that can go in the bottom rack, or for you to take one task after bedtime (e.g., the dishes) while he takes the other (cleaning up the food all over your kitchen, if your kids are like mine lol), and if he wants to do his shift after you go to bed, that's fine! In our house, I would put all the pump parts in the dishwasher, and DH would empty the dishwasher in the AM while I was feeding the baby. I do most of bedtime while DH gets a headstart on cleaning up after dinner. Point is, it doesn't matter what division of labor you choose, just that you need to be clear about what you need, and you guys need to come up with a plan. 4- Try your best to remember that probably 85% of all tension and annoyance and the rest comes from the fact that you are tired. Two young kids are HARD, especially when they aren't doing their nights. So try to be kind to one another (this is advice I need to remind myself to take too--it's hard, good luck!) [/quote]
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