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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the original post sounds thoughtful and I wish OP Luck. 
 A move of that nature is a struggle for anyone but especially as one ages. 
As one ages [b]depression[/b] can be somewhat common. 
Maybe share with her that you feel the move has changed your relationship and you feel sad and miss her spark? Maybe she misses her spark too?

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This might be what’s going on.  She has left her life and friends to love across the country and doesn’t feel like the house you bought together is “home”.  Do you have children? What is her role with them? Are there other retirees in your neighborhood that she can meet? Are there social groups or a neighborhood list serv she (or you) can lost to looking to meet people? I was in a similar situation (though much younger than your MIL) moved cross country, left my home and friends to follow DH here for his job.  It was pretty miserable for the first few years.  I had no friends, and was a SAH mom to an infant so didn’t have any way to meet other adults.  I was getting so depressed that I started a book club through my neighborhood list serv.  Maybe she could do something like that?  Does she have any hobbies? Does she like art? Sewing? Gardening? I think she needs a social life outside you and your DH.  [/quote]

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