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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ghosting as punishment is not the way you treat someone who  raised you and is now emotionally ill.

If you need to loosen the ties, go for it.

But ghost as punishment?  Time to grow up and roll back the drama.

My MIL did the 90s equivalent of ghosting me the first time I pissed her off.  Backfired terribly for her.[/quote]

Didnt you read that OP’s mom was abusive since OP was young? Who hits a child and says it’s ok? You are sick PP. [/quote]

I didn't say put up with it.  I didn't say continue the relationship with her mom.  I didn't say she had a great mom.

I said don't ghost as punishment - that represents continued engagement after the punishment period ends, since it isn't "ghost so I can get out of this mess" but "ghost to get even" that can't be healthy.

Clearly both parties have issues and both need some help.  If this daughter wants to break these ties, she sure can, but not by ghosting for some limited time.

(and for what its worth, my MIL is mentally ill)
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I don’t think it’s unhealthy. It is what it is. OP also wants to get out of her mom’s abuse. Instead of physically hurting OP, the mom is trying to regain control by tugging on the heart strings. Cue the emotional blackmail. It’s  not one or the other. [/quote]

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