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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A 4 year old should not be expected to have the self control to not scream. A baby learns to cry and cry louder when they need attention. A toddler can't regulate their emotions yet and the emotion takes over their brain. Your child screams when overcome. This is not something a time out really fixes. Age and brain maturity does.

Ignore the screaming and wait. His brain will catch up until he can hear you again. Punishing him when he has no control will lead to greater frustration because you will expect him to control something he just can't yet.[/quote]

What? A FOUR year old shouldn't be expected to have the self control to stop screaming if reminded to do so? That is not correct. A four year old is not a two year old. A four year old can absolutely be reasoned with. Reasoning (screaming is for emergencies) + consequence for second (or prolonged) occurrence (start w/ natural consequence if possible -- i.e., taking away legos/toy causing screaming; if that doesn't work or natural consequence is not available: short time out, no sticker for the day, no treat that day, no iPad time that day; whatever his currency is). Repeat for 2 weeks (w/ a reminder of the reasoning each time). After two weeks, tell him consequence is now for screaming at all (if he's trying, maybe give him a pass if he self-stops quickly). You will nip this in the bud relatively quickly, especially if he already has sufficient self control at school.[/quote]

3.5-4 is when kids START developing self-control. We all know that means our kids will instantly have it at 3 years and 5 months because they're all self-starters, right?  :roll:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/peaceful-parents-happy-kids/201506/8-steps-help-your-child-develop-self-control

OP, you know your kid best. You know if it's behavior that CAN be modified vs if he simply can't stop once he starts screaming. But try stuff like the link above.[/quote]

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