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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks, all, for your replies. I just turned 39, my youngest is 3.5.
Why I might not : financial paranoia, as well as a sense that I would like to have an era in my (hopefully) healthy middle aged years where I actually have my sh*t together, don’t have decaying apple sauce in the minivan, learn to cook a few new dishes, wear scarves, etc. And my husband had a bad health scare recently that made me so grateful for our three and the life we had/ sort of have again now that it’s resolved. Plus, our swiftly advancing ages making me nervous about problems with the baby and rocking the boat in general.

Why I might do it anyway: kids are the main thing that I’m sure that I’m glad that I did, and would always do again, and when I’m 80 I think I’ll want 4.[b] I’ve in fact always wanted 4 and if I don’t I’ll always be sad about it.[/b][/quote]

Previous poster again and I thought I'd always be sad about not having a 4th.  (We stopped at 3 because of infertility issues).  I was sad for a good long time.  I always wanted 4, i didn't feel "done" or even close to "done" with 3 kids.

However, when my youngest turned about 5 something switched in my head and I just stopped wanting a 4th kid and started feeling really, really, really grateful for the life we have the family size we have. 
If I can flip like this, anyone can.  I can't tell you how I truly dreamed for and prayed for and cried over not having a 4th for those 5 years.  And now (youngest is 9) I am truly, 100% content and grateful to have 3.  
There isn't even a small part of me that longs for the child we didn't have. [/quote]

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