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[quote=Anonymous]You need to go to therapy and address very specific things including your anger, fear, PTSD-like symptoms, ability to trust again, etc.  The ONLY way through it is to feel the emotions and process them.... and then move past them. This will take years, not months.

I'm not gonna lie, it's something we will never really get over.  I discovered my husband's affair in 2015, and we separated in 2016 after what I now know was a waste of time trying to repair our marriage in therapy. Separated in late 2016, divorce was final earlier this year. It was actually amicable, he just dragged his feet.

You've got to find new things to enjoy in your new life. Keep putting one foot in front of the other until you've discovered so many new things you love about your new life that your future has more pull than your past.

And then.... read Brene Brown's work on vulnerability. It will tell you everything you need to know about how to trust and love again.  Dont let what your ex did to you leave you with a scar that prevents you from being brave enough to experience life's most wonderful and intense emotions, which is absolute love and trust for another.  This takes time, missteps, terror, and fury. But I promise you, you'll get there.   [/quote]

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