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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know it's dramatic, over the top, silly, etc. But these are real emotions that a real person is feeling. This is her reaction, so try to take a breath, take it in, and respond in the most present, mature, compassionate way that you can.

I will never, ever forget a time when I was genuinely trying to tell my dad that something he said had hurt me. He laughed at me. To this day, I think it's the worst I've ever felt, and I've suffered some true losses and difficulties over the years. [/quote]

+1 NP When I was finally brave enough to tell my dad something that he had done that hurt my feelings, he yelled at me to suck it up and hung up on me.  It was such a minor thing, the actual event, but my scar is now very deep.

Back to OP:  What I can tell you about raising my teen is the following hard-learned lesson.  Teens are insecure and hear something as benign as "pass the salt" as "you are a disappointment and can't do anything right."  Makes no sense, but that is what's going on (and our approval, despite all evidence to the contrary, is very important).  The poster's advice is dead on.  I found it best to let him go on and on.... and on while calmly responding or taking a pause.  Worry less about the words and let her vent.[/quote]

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