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[quote=Anonymous][quote=vtbigdog][quote=Anonymous]tell your mom that all of you can't make it because they already have plans but that you can be there if she wants. and to next time give you more of a heads up. The 29th is a Thursday, so why couldn't his bday acknowledgement happen the previous weekend (is THIS weekend).

Also, sorry dude, but you seem to be acting the victim here. You're a victim of your wife, your mother, and your golden boy brother. Come on. Your dad's bday doesn't change, you said yourself you guys typically go to visit. So why didn't YOU make plans, block off that weekend, ask mom when you should come to celebrate? And if you feel the way you do about your brother, why haven't you talked to your parents about how their treatment makes you feel? Sounds to me you expected your wife to make the plans and want to blame her for not remembering or prioritizing your father's birthday (which is in the middle of the week, not a weekend this year). Nope. It's YOUR job to prioritize it. [/quote]

We normally go to my parents for this weekend for a least dinner. My wife made plans without checking with me. I would have red flagged it before. I mentioned it was the weekend we normally go to my parents house.

It is like if I made plans on my wife's mother's birthday or the 4th. Kind of givens that we are doing those things. [/quote]

Ok guy.  So really, you’re just mad at your wife. Got it.  Even though your father’s birthday falls between two weekends.  Even though you didn’t proactively check with your mother about when this would take place since it all hinges upon the golden boy brother apparently. Even though you feel like there’s a golden boy brother in the picture and don’t do anything about that. Maybe your wife doesn’t like your family?  Maybe when she’s there she feels like a servant in daycare worker and not a guestMaybe she’s annoyed that you constantly assume she knows what you’re thinking and what you want and expect. Maybe she wants to spend time with her friend which involves a playmate for your child which, as a mother myself, is kind of a big deal. Built-in entertainment and memory-making for your kid. But, by all means, pin it on her and continue to avoid any responsibility for making plans with your own parents. [/quote]

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