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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: we are late 40s and this situation has totally caught me off guard. I feel disrespected. You hear about people carrying on at HS or college reunions, but not with the kids you were sharing crayons with in the second grade.

He kept in touch with two people from those days through the years and has never brought up contact with anyone else so doubt there was any communication with this woman beforehand.

[b]It is not easy for me to bring this up because he has been a very good husband. But I can also see that as a couple moved through life, sensitive issues need to be discussed[/b].[/quote]

Yes! Try to view this as something that often comes up in marriages. (It does, if you are together for a long time -- not always, but certainly often in long marriages.)

You want to know what's going on, so you have to ask and to listen.
You want to move to a better, closer place to him, so you need not to avoid it, but to be clear about how this hurts and confuses and upsets you -- but not with the goal of making him defensive, but the goal of figuring out together how you got there, and how to get to something more secure and intimate together.

Good luck.
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