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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]uhh I know you're frustrated op, but lecturing him the whole way home while he cries his eyes out is probably enough? He obviously doesn't get the cards, he knows you're upset and you've made clear this isn't ok, that's fine. He's 7 not 13. I would just talk to him tonight when you all are calmed down - make sure he understands why you were frustrated, talk to him about what he was thinking about to better understand why he had a hard time following the directions, help him strategize for next time when he's tempted. If he does something like that again, have him do some chores to earn the money to pay back for the thing. But otherwise I would let it go and remember that kids are still learning impulse control. Doesn't make it ok, but your parents displeasure is often punishment enough especially at that age. Use it as a teaching moment instead of a way to make a punishment fit the "crime"[/quote]

Agreed.  And don't have him miss the party.  Especially if it is a place where the parents have already paid. 
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Agreed I'm the pp and I really don't think the birthday kid should have to be punished for this. I really do understand why the op is frustrated, it is so maddening when kids do things just completely opposite of what we asked but I think slowing down and having a conversation is the best bet. He's still learning and I doubt he'll forget that convo in the car with his mom. Doesn't mean he won't ever not listen again (again, impulse control..growing brains..) but he will try! and hopefully resist longer next time :) and mom will know to prevent by removing temptations.[/quote]

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