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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Very nice of you to check on him.  I do think a member of the staff needs to stay until all kids are picked up.  [/quote]

At a bus stop?  Camp bus stops are generally at safe public places like schools or playgrounds.  At about 9, my kid was walking home from the camp bus some days, and waiting a few minutes for me to grab his younger sibling who got out at the same time. before I came to get him.  He had a cell phone, knew the plan and was fine waiting.  Delaying the rest of the bus run would nave made no sense.

OP for all I know this was my kid.  Although I think he was safe, if he reported what you did I would be pleased to know that there were people in the community looking out for him.  However, if you had complained to the camp about the bus leaving, or tried to get him in your car, or kept bothering him after he made it clear he was fine, I would have considered that helicoptering.

If he had seemed surprised not to see a parent, or scared, or reported that he didn’t know what was going on then a different response might have been on order, but in this circumstance I think either just leaving or checking and then leaving was fine.
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If you don't want someone else to care about your child, care enough to pick them up on time or make arrangements for someone else to pick them up.  At 9, your child is your responsibility and a parent should be there, especially if a younger sibling is involved.  I get running late every so often but you do this on a regular basis.  Young kids still need supervised and supported.  Thank goodness for people like OP to care when the parents don't.[/quote]

PP you are replying to,

Helicoptering and caring about your kids are two totally different things.

I don’t get your comment about a younger sibling.  Younger sibling was with me.  Why would that fact impact the safety of my older kid?

I also think it is a little weird to say that running late is OK but planning for it isn’t.  Planning for it, meant that we had scoped our the location (in our case the local public elementary school where our kids don’t attend but go to the playground regularly), made sure he had what he needed, practiced what to do if something came up.  So he felt confident.  If I had just failed to show up he would have been worried and unprepared.

Just out of curiosity, if I was letting my 9 year old walk home from school would you feel the same way?  [/quote]

I would be concerned.  My child's 9 and I don't know any parents who have the kids walk home from school alone.  They are still very young.  I don't think its ok  at all to be late picking up kids.  You need to make arrangements for young kids if you cannot pick them up on time.[/quote]

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