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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's moving, how is this screwing you over.  Its fine for him to move.  Let him have holidays and summers and since he is moving, he pays for transportation and making arrangements.  [/quote]
Please go away. - new poster[/quote]

Another new poster and I agree with poster you are telling to go away.  It sounds to me that her ex had an excellent plan.  OP does not own her ex and it is easy to see why she has an ex![/quote]

:roll:  This is OP. You are so ridiculous I can't even be offended.

My ex has indeed shafted me and our kid in huge and small ways for years, which I'm not going to go into because I'm not actually here for drama. He already gets to be the "fun parent" while I take care of the actual parenting. When he moves, I'll be handling 100% of the school conferences, pickups from extracurriculars, etc., and will have no regular "kid free" nights. That's fine, but I don't want to lose most of my fun/relaxed time (summer and holidays) with ds.  I'm not trying to control Ex, I'm trying to protect me and my kid by getting advice. Thanks to everyone who actually provided tips and perspective![/quote]

OP you don't have to justify yourself. I get EXACTLY what you're saying.  My ex is the same way. He gets to be the fun parent when he feels like it and does none of the parenting stuff (school, doctors, homework, etc.)

I would tell him that he can have DS a couple of weeks in the summer, half or alternating holidays and pays for all travel.

If he doesn't like it, tell him to stay put.  I would never move that far from my kid.  Period. [/quote]

I agree, but he should get half of summer break, not just a few weeks. Maybe 2/3's, but start negotiating with half of summer break. [/quote]

How are 1/2's fair. That means he gets maybe 4 weeks out of 52.[/quote]

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