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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- Thank you everyone who took time to reply and give advice; I do appreciate it.

I am still contemplating a path forward with my mother on the subject. I know she is a big ball of emotions over all this- sad, frustrated, resentful, depressed, stressed. And she likes to be in control so she can be the martyr later....  As I said, the noticeable decline in my Dad has been seemingly quick, and actually, he is only 67 not 68 like I stated earlier; he'll turn 68 later this year. The diagnosis came a month after his 67th birthday, so yes, he seems young.

My Mom can drive, so transportation is not really an issue. It's just getting her on board with taking and hiding the keys at least for the short term. Long term, I'm hoping to convince her to talk to my Dad's doctor about having the doctor "revoking" his driving privileges. I just know it will be hard to convince her; I sometime think that since she's with him every day, she's gets a little immune to how quickly my Dad is failing to those of us who don't see him every day.

Anyways, again, thank you to everyone who replied. It is shocking to me at times how someone so brilliant can fade away at least mentally so quickly. It's also so sad to me so many other people have had to go through this with their own loved ones, and with the seeming prevalence of the disease, there still is no potential therapy or drug anywhere on the horizon to help lessen or stop the decline....[/quote]

I don't think you have much time...I notice you say " long term I will have the dr. revoke the license,  etc., I'll try and talk to Mom.

I am a little younger than your Mom. Frankly, if I were in her position, I would be stepping up to curtail the driving and he wouldn't be alone in the house pretty soon after dx.   Don't say" Well, you don't know what you would do..." Yes, I do.

Here's what I've learned from watching my parents and my friends' parents over the years.  As things happen, the spouses tend to cover for each other, and it seems sweet in a way, but it's about selfishness. They don't want their lives to change, and whatever illness the other spouse has interferes with that . It's not as much as mean as it is fear. Fear of change,  fear of being alone, fear of death. If we don't acknowledge it,  it isn't happening really. And- they will actually lie to you in order to preserve this fantasy.

The car thing needs to stop now, and regards to other things, your Mom might need some counseling because she is having trouble with accepting . I know that you didn't expect to be having to take over at your age, but your Mom isn't, so you have to. Not later- now. I'm sorry- it really is hard. Been there, and it was ugly.[/quote]

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