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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 16 DS doesn’t seem to want to get one. Now granted, there isn’t a new car (or even used one) waiting for him at the end of the rainbow but truly, how many more times do I need to ask him, ‘Wanna go take the test?’  Or course I realize things are different now than it was in 1985 when I got my license and needed it to go my after school job, but come on! Turn off the video games and get to it! I don’t drive him anywhere, so I can’t alter that. He uses his bus pass for everything. But my husband and I are practically begging him to get it so we can get him in the car, really to start feeling more independent. I actually want him to feel this accomplishment.  Any guidance from those who came before me? Is this just the generation who stays at home more and communicates  with friends virtually?[/quote]

This generation is not our generation, where we had no way to connect with peers without cars, and of course the culture was a car-culture (OP, we grew up with CHiPs, Dukes of Hazzard, Emergency!, Knight Rider, Magnum PI, Streets of San Francisco, etc).

We had a reason to drive.  Your DS has no reason to drive.

You have to give him a reason to want it.  I don't know what that is for you....you have to find something!

My 16 DD did not want to learn and of course now is so happy she did.  She loves her summer job at her high school's bookstore, so that became the necessity for her as there is no school bus in the summer.  Also, she loves hot yoga, and that is only within driving distance (or by bus, but we didn't explore the bus).

So you need to find a reason for him to drive.  It's like doing laundry, or keeping their room clean.  Some won't do it until they see the need to.

It is important that you figure this out now, because the only people in his life who will help him drive safely will be the two of you.  All other people will be his peers, trying to distract him. So it's good for him to learn while under your roof, vs. at college or afterwards.[/quote]

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