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[quote=Anonymous]I imagine there are others with similar circumstances. Mine is almost exactly your story, OP. The difference is that you thankfully have no reason to go, so please don't!

I have an Uncle by marriage (DH to my maternal aunt). I babysat their kids when I was 14-17. I found penthouse mags in a guest bathroom that weren't ever there before.  Now that I think back, I realize they were probably planted there since it was the only bathroom I used. He was blatantly flirty. I lived in an apartment building and he would ride elevator with me to be sure I arrived at my my floor (safely ha). It was then that he began asking me about boyfriends and kissing etc. He snapped my bra strap once and I remember this night vividly. I was 16 when he did it and I was exhausted (his kids were a handful). I screamed at him to never ever touch me again. He never escalated beyond that night. I got a different job but would still see him at family events. Once when I was 17, I was out in his front yard playing with kids. He came over with his neighbor, introduced us and told me that his friend was a doctor and then turned to neighbor and said, I bet you'd like to exam her (Snort snort). By 17, I had experienced enough inappropriate male attention that I was pretty street smart. My BIL was also a creep and he still is. He's been slapped into place. It's sickening how most of us can look back and realize how many situations short of non consent, have occurred.  I don't think my uncle or BIL would ever forcibly assault women. I pray they never have! But, they sure played the grooming game like they had a consensual shot. Calculating, disgusting men. I've experienced no less than a dozen situations that would be defined as #meetoo. Sadly, so many of us.

Uncle is now in his 80's, widower and declining. You made me think of what I would do in your situation. I attended my aunt's funeral. I am pretty close with his youngest daughter and she came with her husband and kids to my father's funeral.  I would show up for my cousin. I will not honor him in my mind or heart. I was not physically assaulted and this is the only way I can justify attending. Doesn't make him less of a predator, only that I luckily beat him at his game. [/quote]

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