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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH also gets plenty of compliments for his hands-on parenting. He’s an involved and affectionate dad who is present in the moment with them. And yes - he’s also clueless. He probably knows which shoes are theirs but I wouldn’t put money on it. On family vacations he’ll wander off for alone time whenever he pleases, grab his coffee and go sit on the deck while I deal with breakfast demands, and no way is he involved in determining what needs packed. So really this gripe is more about dads who are not equal partners in parenting. I think it’s learned helplessness. Not many of us had fathers who were equal partners and the idea that they should be is unfortunately a newer one. [/quote]
I agree with so much of this. My DH gets accolades for being this “present and hands-on” dad, because he’s fun and good with kids.

But he has no clue what he’s doing when it comes to logistics. I don’t think he knows the time the school bus comes, what time school starts if they miss the bus, where to find a sweatshirt or warmer pajamas in the house, which shampoo is DD’s, how to follow a bedtime routine, where the kid’s doctor’s office is. And not because he’s never been told, but because of learned helplessness. [/quote]

My DH doesn't get accolades but he knows our child's entire routine, takes him to school (I pick up), and can handle the entire night time routine no sweat. He does sing a different song at bedtime but his is silly and meant to made DS laugh. There are plenty of Dads who are fully involved with raising their kids and would think that it is weird that people are giving them props for parenting.[/quote]

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