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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. DS wakes me up around 7am, and I am dying at home playing/stuck with him till lunch hour if we do DH's preferred activities. DS is high energy, and it is a lot easier if we both get out of house to breath & do something. DS is attached to me, and it is always I play with him or he play around me, and both of us goes from one activities to next activities (each lasts 5-30 min) at the house. DH does free-style parenting at home which he rarely plays with DS. That is how DH was raised growing up. It is always me taking care of DS at home, and DH does not want to help at all. He says that DS can play by himself for hours, but the problem is I am the one ends up playing with him for hours.

Of course we can alternative activities, and we did it sometimes. But on the day of his preferred activities, it always end up to the point that I am too exhausting to entertain or both of us gets bored at home. DS goes to full time daycare 5 days a week, and he is always looking forward to start his day & having fun early on weekend.

Yeah, I agree that we need to work on compromising. And, I need to work on my temper as well because I admit that I nag too much. That is why I say that it is a vent post.[/quote]

Seek therapy or parenting help with your DH.

Your child does need to learn to entertain himself. He should not always be engaged with an adult. It sounds like you are the parent who thinks your kid always needs to be engaged and active and your DH thinks that your child needs to learn to do things solo. Our house is the reverse, my DH is far more likely to get down and play cars or trains or whatever with our son. I am far more likely to plan trips to the farm or pick fruit or hike or go toa museum. We have different strengths and that leads to slightly different roles. DS is 7 now and enjoys playing with us but can read a book on his own or play on his own or ask to see if a friend can come over.

You want your DH to be engaged 24/7 with DS because you feel it is a necessity and your DH doesn't. That is a different parenting philosophy and one that you need to sort out sooner rather then later.

Of course your kid is going to want you, you are his iPad. Your son knows that Dad will play with him for a certain amount of time and then tell him to play by himself. Of course DS is going to gravitate to you. [/quote]

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