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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is your own being high strung and complicating things. How old are your kids? Did your DH ever do the same for you? I mean, I hate to say it as a woman, but most of our troubles are of our own creation. Why is everything a big deal? Pick a card and give it to your dh, why this much ado about nothing? 
This reads to me like, it could have been a good day, but I decided to make it a misery, for kids, for me, for everyone. Why? When you went to the grocery store, you couldn't just pick a card?![/quote]

I think you are being too harsh.  She is trying to teach her kids how to show appreciation to their father.  Sometimes raising kids is hard.  Sure, it would be easier to let it go and just do it herself, but what would that teach her kids? You can't just raise kids with the philosophy that at all times one must minimize fuss and placate kids so that they never feel uncomfortable and never whine.

OP it is not unreasonable to ask you kids to spend three minutes to pick out an appropriate birthday card. The root problem is not the card (and whoever made that love languages comment is ridiculous.) This is about them not treating you with respect or following your very simple, reasonable request.  You need to arrest this NOW because as a parent of teens, believe me I see the bad results.  I would have stood in that grocery store and told my kids weren't leaving until they picked out a nice card, and I would have meant it. (Then I would have praised their choice and clued my husband in to act super appreciative and happy.)[/quote]

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