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[quote=Anonymous]yup yup yup to 17:20 and & 11:41 above me.

You know your husband best - it sounds like this could fall into two camps (1) he is just a man who is processing this struggle differently that you, and you want him to process it similarly to you, or (2) he is not supportive and you need to find a better match before you have children.

Do you have examples of him being mean? that might help illuminate if this is (1) or (2)

As for my experience, we dealt with IF (male side) for a while, the longer it would continue the more extreme my ups and downs (hormones and excitement, hormones and defeat) and the more reserved he became on the topic.  I felt I wasn't talking about it much (considering how much I was THINKING about it, as I tempted every morning, peed on sticks, checked my cervix, charted sex, etc etc) but once I had a sit down with him - I realized he still thought I talked about it too much and it made it no longer fun, but a chore - his mindset was "if anything changes, let me know" otherwise he wanted to semi ignore that we were TTC and just let it happen naturally (this obviously wasn't an option as we had male side IF issues, so I continued to do all my 'work' to know when i was ovulating, but found other sources for support (friends & mother) when i needed to vent and over-discuss TTC as I was trying to respect that we have different needs and coping mechanism when going through stress) ....

needless to say, we had a hard year or so while TTC but with open communication on the matter - i would try and see his side and be considerate, and he would try and see mine - we survived and i think grew a lot stronger and supportive as partners because of it
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