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[quote=Anonymous]	Do your boys get along well with other adults in their lives, op? Think of how they are with teachers, Scout leaders, church coaches, neighbors... and what all these people say about them. I got the sense you were trying a bit too hard to get your boys to like the boyfriend, no adult man wants to go to the park and have ice cream with someone else's kids. Most probably don't want to do it with their own kids, and I say this as someone who has a good father and is married to a good husband who is also a good father.  Maybe your boys were picking up on that, very much like how a toddler will look at Santa and scream, "No way can that man in the red suit be up to any good, nobody I know acts like him". 
I'd get them together in an environment where they can get to know each other based on mutual interests or on interests your boys want to share with adults or that your boyfriend may want to share with any kid, not just yours. If your boys like reptiles, maybe you all can go to the zoo. If your boyfriend likes fishing, maybe you all can do that? If the two of you break up, I'd also not wait 6 plus months to introduce a boyfriend to the kids. By 6 months, you're already invested in the guy, you've got the good "I'm in love hormones" plugging away, and if he is yucky, you are more likely to blame the kids for being snots. I realize this is counter to the current advise given, I just can't see how parents skulking around to participate in an activity that they are allowed to do is a good idea. You are an adult, you are free to date, and there is no reason your boys can't be aware of that.  
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