Reply to S/O is it unfair for grandparents to help with one set of grandkids and not the other?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "S/O is it unfair for grandparents to help with one set of grandkids and not the other?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,  why are you assuming you will get no assistance from your MIL? Your BIL/SIL's kids will be older than yours, so it's entirely possible that your MIL will view helping you as the prior.

Sounds like you are creating drama in your head for a child and circumstances that do not yet exist. [/quote]

+1. I was wondering this as well. I'll try to be more compassionate than PPs here. Do you have reason to believe that your ILs will offer you no help with childcare if/when you and DH have kids? Have they flat out told you this? Or is this an assumption you're making based on pre-grandchildren treatment between you/DH and your BIL/SIL?

If it's the latter, then you have reason to be disappointed. Old habits die hard with relationship dynamics such as these. But notice I did say "disappointed" and not "angry" with your ILs. Like PPs have mentioned, it is your and your DH's financial responsibility to provide childcare for your kids. But it's only human to be disappointed if you see the ILs providing long term assistance and you were to not receive any. But at this point, and with the information you've provided, you're just speculating. That can cause problems where they truly don't exist.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics