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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Eh, i would have called. You already have this dynamic and it’s not going to change in a heated moment. And I like happy hours more than ‘winning.’

Hash out communication problems in couples therapy, but enjoy life! [/quote]

OP here and I get you. It wasn't the moment to "make a point" just because I was annoyed. Therapy or a conversation outside of the actual issue happening would've been more appropriate. It just sucks when something so small becomes this huge deal. It has now become "you aren't paying for it, the least you could've done was called" - which to me sounds like a controlling, manipulative statement. But again, I'm heated right now. [/quote]

Meh sometimes we have things we just hate doing so the other person will do it, that's marriage.  Making reservations or returning things to the shop, sometimes people just have this inbuilt hate of doing things.  I'm sure there are things he does for you because you simply hate doing it.

If you are extroverted then calling will be nothing for you, if he is introverted than perhaps it's just one of those things he doesn't want to deal with.  I think in marriage it's all about give and take a little, you aren't going to get very far by trying to make a point with each other.

Besides if you were sitting there not doing anything and he was obviously eager to go out perhaps he was just annoyed that you had your head buried in your laptop and didn't seem interested in going anywhere.  By saying I'm dealing with the kid, now I'm dealing with work on my laptop, at any point did you stop, give him some undivided attention and say 'yeah that sounds like fun, looking forward to it' or were you just annoyed and that annoyance came through loud and clear and all he wanted to do was go out for a nice evening.  I mean he was looking forward to spending a nice evening with you and the message you sent him was 'stop talking to me because everything else is more important than you and even though you just asked me to ring, I have deliberately gone onto the laptop now to show you how little your request means to me'.  I think maybe he was a little frustrated.

This isn't a hill to die on.  There will be other hills more important, I would have made the call and enjoyed the evening.[/quote]

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