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[quote=Anonymous][quote][quote=Anonymous]He is obsessed with being on his phone and the internet. We have monitored and restricted when possible but when we completely take away he becomes a whole new angry and miserable person to be around.[/quote]

OP, this is a symptom of withdrawal. For ADHD kids, being on the phone/internet is like a drug.  And, yes, it can derail any interest in academics.  If you need frequent dopamine hits, the motivation to work on things that give you none goes waaaay down. He may actually needs some psychiatric help to get him off the addiction.

[quote]Everyone we speak with are at a loss to explain the complete lack of motivation to do the work and do well other than he has poor study habits. All his friends do well in school so it is not like he has surrounded himself with equally unmotivated students.[/quote]

The lack of motivation also demonstrates a complete unconcern for the future. Not surprising, the teenage brain is not good at this, but most kids have some understanding that they have to suffer in the now to get into college, become a grown up, etc.  The fact that your son is unconcerned suggests something's going on with executive functioning and planning areas in his brain.

[quote]Also, he refuses to accept any help from us in assisting with homework or reviewing projects/essays before being submitted. We are just trying to help get him on the right path but he wants none of it.[/quote]

As his parent, you still have some leverage. Given what's happened his freshman year, something needs to change.  From what you've written, you are intimidated when he gets upset or angry, and fail to follow-through on disciplining him.

You and your spouse need help as well. Please get some counseling as a family, get some parent coaching support, and also look at a psychiatric evaluation for your son.  [/quote]

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