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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He told you how he FELT. You invalidated his feelings. When someone tells you how they feel, you don't get to say that isn't true. It is true to him and you can't say it isn't.

You should be concerned with why he feels this way? What makes him feel that way? You don't care about how he feels at all. Instead you tell him he needs to make you feel okay. Again, it is 100% about you. You turn on the tears and try and guilt and manipulate him into denying his own feelings so that you can feel better.

You sound like a narcissist or an incredibly self centered manipulative person. You don't seem to be able to see or care about how he feels or his needs or even listen to what he is telling you.

You should start by apologizing for invalidating him. You should ask and be open to hearing what has made him feel that way. You should be committed to working on those things. You should go to therapy.[/quote]

No. Op is the woman, she is right.  Guys are always evil and wrong.  Didn't you get the memo? [/quote]

BS. In what universe is calling someone a monster and a nightmare telling someone how they FEEL?? That's unacceptable on any level, by any person. That is evil and wrong, full stop. [/quote]

He did tell her how he felt.  She dismissed him and turned it into something about herself.  (Nudging him to tell her it was all ok).  Then he snapped.  I get it.  I've been in that situation too and there is only so much selfishness and dismissiveness you can take before you snap.  [/quote]

What sounds selfish is dropping that bomb with no real effort at discussion. You can't bring that crap up right before you go to sleep. That's manipulative beyond belief. That was no real attempt, by the sound of it, to have an actual discussion, it was a drive-by. She called him out on it. THEN he snapped. Nice try. He's wrong. She may not be innocent, but he's wrong. [/quote]

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