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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had 2 births that might have been traumatic, if not for my partner, my midwives and my doulas. One was nearly 48 hours that ended with pitocin to help things along.
The second was less than 2 hours from my first contraction and the baby’a heartbeat was slowing from the stress of moving so fast. In both situations, I felt empowered and respected. I felt like my team was working WITH me. I later found out that during my second labor, as I was pushing on my hands and knees and looking at my husband, that a whole team of doctors was right behind me, ready to do an emergency C section. I had no idea and I am glad I didn’t know. All I knew in the moment is that my husband wasn’t scared and my midwife said “you’ve got this. Just a few more pushes” and I trusted them. 
I am so thankful for them and the experience I got to have when so many women have similar labors but poor mental heath outcomes due to the way they are treated. [/quote]

Having experienced the worst  possible outcome, I am having a hard time reading here where any trauma came into play. You sound dramatic. You shouldn't share this with people who really did have traumatic births and in many instances, bad outcomes.[/quote]

When I went to my first postpartum follow up, the head midwife and a counselor joined the regular midwife and they had obviously put me in a room away from the others and blocked off extra time to talk to me. They started off asking my to tell them what I remembered about my “traumatic” birth - which was a surprise to me. When I got home my husband then chose to tell me that all the people I couldn’t see where obviously tense and preparing for a potential bad outcome. He didn’t think I needed to know that since everything ended up ok. I think that’s the whole point of the article - I could have been mad to feel like my birth was traumatic, but I wasn’t. The exact same situation could have been traumatic if the team had handled it poorly. It’s not a competition about whose birth was more traumatic. [/quote]

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