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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, don't bother.  Find other friends.  This type of mom doesn't want to be your friend.[/quote]

Agree.  Maybe not that they don’t want to be your friend- but you are in two different worlds.  They mostly see each other at day time things.  You are working.  I doubt they meet up in the evenings often.  Probably once in a blue moon.    I SAH and so do most of my friends.  There is one mom I’m fond of, I don’t know that I’d call her a great friend, but I enjoy her company.  She works full time and I met her through an extracurricular activity our kids were in together and they happen to be classmates at the same school which I wasn’t aware of (since she never does pick up).

They only way we socialize together is if they have all of us over for dinner or us them.  Which we try to do every couple months.  Otherwise, I would never run into her except for if our kids were signed up for the same thing by coincidence.  To meet up with any working mom outside of typical work hours means I either bring the whole family or leave the whole at home.  Both are harder to do and take more effort and coordination.

Keep your work friends close.  There are usually a good number or working moms that attend evening extracurricular sports and activity.  I would put more effort into meeting the moms at these things.  [/quote]
I don't understand, why can't you and your son meet up with her and her son?  Why does your whole family have to come?[/quote]

Because for her and her son to meet up with me and mine, it has to be either in the evenings or on weekends (since she works) which means we are both leaving our spouses and other children at home.  [b]Who wants to split up family time like that?  And my husband isn’t reliable to be home at any given evening and weekend.[/b]  I usually have to arrange for a babysitter if I’m not taking all the children with me.  [/quote]

NP, but I'm happy to split up family time occasionally if it means I get to spend time with a woman whose company I really enjoy and otherwise wouldn't see.  What's the big deal?  It does us all good to mix it up at times.

I do know SAHM whose husbands do almost no childcare, and that's a barrier, OP.  There are lots of SAHM in our neighborhood, too, who naturally connect during the day and it's hard to break in.  It's a bummer, but I'm slowly connecting with other moms who work and whose kids are friends with mine at school.  I've also met friends through my favorite workout, and will catch up with them after class or schedule a playdate or whatever.  It's not the kind of neighborhood I had growing up (where all the moms were friends and all SAH), but I'll take it over the trade-offs that come with not working.[/quote]

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