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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, OP, it seems ironic to me that this thread has exactly proven your point about being competitively busy. Of course, the lesson that seems to be repetitive is that your child must be busy doing formal activities, which then allows for them to not participate in any social activities like parties and sleepovers.

As long as they have an instrument, a sport, and tutoring, then you aren’t required to ensure they also have a childhood or friends. 
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I don't think you realize how social those activities like sport and orchestra and dance are, in and of themselves.  And many parents don't do sleepovers for other reasons besides activities.[/quote]

Well, they are social, but not in the way a play date, sleep over, or birthday party are. Do you find work team building events as social as a dinner party in your own home?

And yes, I do understand how social activities *can* be, but they’re not when you’re rushing your kids from one to the other. They’re not when they have absolutely no down time for your children to explore relationships outside of practice or events.

Your post just illustrates the obvious: parents believe “busy” is better. There’s no room for just making friends on the playground, or hanging out in the basement. It’s the reason so many people feel such a loss of social connection, why there is no such thing as “community” anymore (other than ethnicities that promote it), why more and more adults and young people feel socially isolated.

Without being dramatic, people don’t need therapy or worse later in life because they never learned to play the oboe. They do it because they are having trouble forming meaningful relationships with withering family, or feel isolated. [/quote]

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