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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know if this is a personality issue or an aging issue, but I’ve noticed, in the last 10 years or so, odd behaviors from my parents. They are now early-70s.

Whenever they go on vacation, without fail they have an issue with their hotel room. It’s always something minor gripe that anyone else would probably brush off, but it’s like they need a perfect hotel room and can’t accept that a hotel room will never be perfect. They will move their luggage 5 times until they find an acceptable room.

Everything any of their neighbors does has to do with them personally. Neighbor retrieves his mail after dark? It’s because he doesn’t want them to see his mail, he must be hiding something. Neighbor doesn’t come over to talk when I’m out shoveling snow? It’s because they are mad at us.

Phone rings and nobody is there? It’s my estranged friend. We get this same call every day. It has to be my friend.

Do people just get more anxious and paranoid as they age? Or is this a sign of something else?[/quote]

Well.. you are judging them from your perspective and they are not you anymore. they are older. They probably crate their world to have something to think about talk about and generally have a reason to wake up next day. If the little excitement with the mail or other made up stuff help them then what is the harm? Older people do tend to create their problems just as you would like to say to some.. get a life.. this is their life. They are trying to fill it wit what they can and how they can. Each person is different as they age this is how they age. Accept it and try to be less judgmental an more supportive.

If it takes them five rrooms.. then so be it. First of all the first room a hotel gives you is always a crap that someone else did not want, especially if they see elderly they try to push just anything. So fair is fair, they pay they demand.
To make it simple, ask them to check the language at the concierge's desk and then go room hopping. 
Have them ask the office to give few different options, few keys and so they can see them and pick the best.
A good hotel will do it without ANY problem.

As to the mail thing.. just play along, show some excitement don't minimize it and say.. who knows.. maybe
he IS  hiding something.. they will love you more then ever and what harm is in this? 
Because while this is really non important and the guy just does his thing.. maybe he is hidings something 
because he saw them watching his every move so he got spooked  :lol:

They are making some magic.. maybe not anxiety? You know that every older person has some quirks,
soon you will have your own. Old age is after all going back to be a kid, so treat them a little bit more
like kids because they need simple unconditional and kind love and affection and not lecturing at t his point.[/quote]

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