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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This isn't just a parent thing - in adult friendships there are organizers and there are accepters, it's best to have multiple organizers so everyone feela confident and liked but sometimes one person just has to take on more of that role. The alternative isn't that it will even out and become fair. It's that you won't have as much of a friendship.[/quote]

I agree with this. Some people are just not great at planning things, while others are more likely to propose ideas and implement. Pre-kids I felt like this dynamic existed too. It's like how some people like hosting people are their house and then you have one friend you realize you've literally never been to their place. But it's probably worse with kids because people are busy. I think based on OPs description it's just different personalities, busy-ness etc since they seem to be interested when you reach out. If they were avoiding or never coming when you reach out it might be something else but this just sounds like a couple women who planning and reaching out isn't their strength.

For what it's worth I personally think anyone that says it's "this area" is off base. This is a pretty typical thing and can happen everywhere. People love to act like people are terrible here, but I've found great friendships and just don't agree. [/quote]

This, plus stop bean counting.  If you've developed a good rapport with someone and it appears mutual - invite them out again.  Don't assume they don't like you when they haven't reciprocated - assume something kinder.  Maybe they are overwhelmed.  Maybe they have social anxiety.   Stop counting what you've put into it and start counting  what you get out of it - a nice time out, good conversation, etc.[/quote]

I'm the pp and 100% agree. [/quote]

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