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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've managed to make a ton of friends as a first time mom in my late 30s, having moved to this area as a transplant 10 years ago and moving here not knowing a single person.  My husband and I did not go to school in this area/not from here/no family here, so when we moved here we were truly on our own and knew no one.  My kids are 2 and 4 and I'm a married mom in my late 30s who works part-time.

Here's what I did to make a lot of wonderful friends:

1)  Joined a few parenting groups through meetup.com and my congregation.  Committed to being in these groups for a year, going to as many events as possible.  After seeing someone who seems nice at a few events in a row, I will reach out to them and invite them to meet up at a playground (something casual).  If that goes well I'll wait a month or two and invite them to something else.  Repeat until a real friendship forms, even if I'm always the one making the plans.

2)  After meeting up with them a few times, I'll friend them on Facebook and/or get their email or phone number.  I'll start a friendly chat, and if they seem like the type who likes to keep in touch by text/email/FB messenger, we'll start communicating frequently.  I also make sure to like and comment on their posts often, at least once or twice a week.

3)  Invite them to the large parties we have at our house every 2-3 months--4th of July party, Halloween party, etc.

4)  Focus on making new friends with moms who are either new to the area, or seem like they don't have many friends.

5)  Do thoughtful things for them, like send them a card on their birthday, celebrate their milestone events (new job, etc.)

6)  Offer to help be a part of their village if they need help and follow through

Doing these things has resulted in a wonderful group of true friends that I've made on my own as a woman in my late 30s.[/quote]

Note that she is putting in a lot of effort. That’s what it takes around here. [/quote]

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