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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous](1) Use content blockers on your computer and his phone.  Sure, he might see it at a friend's house, but porn sites are often full of malware, so you really don't want it on your computer.  
(2) Inform him that porn sites are full of malware.
(3) Remind him that watching porn and masturbating are private activities.
(4) Explain to him that porn is not a realistic depiction of sex, let alone love.  People in porn often fail to practice safe sex, and often engage in apparently non-consensual activities.  Women often pretend to enjoy things that they don't actually enjoy, or that might even be painful or uncomfortable or humiliating.  It might depict forcing or hurting women as pleasurable for the man, when there are many men who would not enjoy that at all.  
(5) The conditions under which porn is made can be exploitative.  Some actors are decently well-paid professionals, but watching porn means you might be watching people who are underage, trafficked, or otherwise coerced.         
(6) Porn tends to reduce people, especially women, to objects, and people are not objects.  He should be treating the girls he knows, including but not limited to any future romantic partners, with respect and consideration.

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This is good advice. Make sure you don't shame him for having an erection or masturbating, OP. Just let him know these are private things and should be done when he's alone in his room. [/quote]

I have twelve year old and this is along the lines of what we do, starting with content blockers. I think it's important to talk about these things, even if it's uncomfortable. I wouldn't take a laid back approach to accessing internet porn- I think it hinder some natural development and give unrealistic views about sex and relationships, plus all of the stuff that pp said. [/quote]

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