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[quote=Anonymous]Ever see the SNL skits for Mother's day or "The Best Christmas/" You have people taking about perfection and then flashbacks to the reality of chaos and sometimes hell? Well I'm pretty sure there would an uproar if they did one of these skits on the funeral of a mean family member, but I bet many people would relate.

On the skit you could have all these beautiful tributes and then flashbacks to the reality. "She always had a kind words for everyone." Flashack: She is telling off her sister as a tween and then kicks her. After funeral people coming up and telling stories of sainthood. Flashback:Those same people are talking about the person while still alive and saying what a selfish jerk the person is for doing A, b and C AGAIN.

People are not perfect and we expect flaws. However, OP I havce a hard time myself glorifying people who are downright jerks to us. I much prefer funeral sermons that weave in the truth. I remember one that said "She didn't show her love in traditional ways. She rarely said I love you and she was not full of outward warmth, but she pushed her kids to be better because she loved them. She made sure they had a financial safety net... blah blah" That one described one of husband's aunts and it went on really created an intricate portrait of a mean woman who I do believe cared in her own way.[/quote]

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