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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with the housekeeper suggestion. I'm a woman, maybe just slightly 'better' about it than your husband, but I'm kind of the same.

A cleaner, even every other week, forces me to straighten up. I have to consolidate the books into stacks and all the other crap before they come, so they spend their time really cleaning and not just making piles and moving piles around. Eventually, I got tired of stacking papers and receipts and puzzle/game boxes etc and learned to not keep so much (because I was confronted with it every other week during frantic pre-cleaning cleanup). I could go on, but you get the gist. I also really liked having a sparkling clean house and not having a panic attack every time there was a possibility that someone might drop by. It took a few months, but I did learn to pick up something if it fell on the floor and put things away somewhat.

Wellbutrin helps me "see" the things I used to not acknowledge.

If your reply is that he wouldn't bother to help clean up at all before the cleaners come and he wouldn't even try to learn to do a better job as your partner, and if that's 100% true, then that's a huge issue that goes way beyond absent-mindedness. I have ADD but I'm also married (to a type A) and a person has to work at making it work if they want it to work.[/quote]

We have house cleaners every other week, but that’s for things like scrubbing toilets, not filing paperwork or finding a lost soccer jersey.  And unfortunately, in some way the house cleaners make things worse because the night before they come is the one time DH will “help,” but his help consists of throwing things in piles on shelves and in cabinets/closets, so then it’s even more work to find something because it could be in the front hall closet, the sideboard in the dining room, or the dishwasher.  Perhaps even the oven (because yes, he once put a stack of papers in the oven to get them off a counter, which I didn’t discover until I fortunately accidentally hit the oven light button while turning it on to preheat).[/quote]

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