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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For my middle schooler last year, her therapist recommended that the consequence be "she doesn't go to school." (we live too far for her to walk if she misses the bus) Believe it or not, this worked.  She took ownership of the whole enchilada, from setting her alarm to getting out the door in the am.  We now stay in bed while she bustles around in the morning.  No shouting out times, no threats, no nothing.  Our mornings with our 7th grader are peaceful now.
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Well, if my kid could stay home every time he missed the bus, he'd never get up before noon. [/quote]

You think do but making up work sucks.[/quote]

Planning and forethought are not his strengths. 
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Then you know what you need to work on with him!  Some children don't come by those skills naturally.  Mine definitely didn't.  We had her write down each thing she has to do every morning and guesstimate how much time she needed for that.  Then we worked backwards from when she needed to get to the bus.  She showers at night.  Sometimes she picks out her clothing at night, sometimes she doesn't.  At night, I remind her to make sure her backpack is all set.  I put a note on the door that has a short checklist for what she needs to remember:  housekey, phone, school iPad, and something else that I can't remember right now!  [/quote]

Right, this is a case of needing to know your kid. [b]If planning and forethought are not his strengths[/b], then (a) using the approach of staying home if the bus is missed probably won't work (though for some kids this would be very motivating) and (b) you know that you are going to have to be more rather than less involved in getting him out the door in the morning, and that's just the way it's going to have to be.

So that said, as others have requested above, tell us more about your kid. What's the morning process currently like? Is the inability to make the bus just one in a number of planning/execution difficulties or is this more about sleep/motivation/etc.? The answers to these questions inform the solutions.[/quote]

Planning and forethought? How much planning and forethought does it take to set an alarm on your phone for every weekday at 6:45 am? It isn't that hard. [/quote]

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