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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, he may feel less anxious if he wasn't dealing with the money. Can you manage it? [/quote]

OP here. I'd love to and have offered. But he'd just check it all behind me (even he admits this.)

And I do handle all of the house/kid stuff except for what we outsource (e/o week housecleaners.) He mows the lawn, which I've offered to hire out but he refuses. If I went back full time I'd definitely want him to take some of the household/kid stuff from me, but I don't see that happening. He hasn't offered either.[/quote]

I don't understand women like you and the other woman with the autoimmune disease who wants to work part time. I can't imagine being married to someone and letting him control me to this degree.

In your case, why don't you write a list and keep your hours of everything - I mean everything - that you do every week and everything he does. Everything that needs to get done with the kids and house and extended family. Include
Minor things like buying birthday present and scheduling holidays and interactions with your extended family and registering for summer camp. Assign a minute time to everything. Then sit down and tell him - which of these are you willing to do every week to add up to fifty percent of the labor? And ask him, is that extra work HE will commit to doing worth your extra income?

All he does is now the friggin lawn?? It sounds like he does not appreciate your labor at all which would piss me off. 
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