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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my child but not having children.  Since having a child I have realized I dont like children.  I wouldn’t say I dislike them but that I don’t like them.  D I’m happiest when my child is sleeping or I’m out without my child.  I strongly disliked pregnancy and had a rough childbirth.  I miss my old life tremendously.  Now that I have a preschooler I finally have more of my life back. It’s easier to focus more on my career and he sleeps through the night.  I do love my child and of course there are moments where I feel intense love for my child.

But I still have this lingering question of do I want another child?  I worry about my child not having a sibling.  I worry something will happen to my child and we will be childless.  I know rationally I shouldn’t have another child.  The expense and the fact I don’t like children.

Has anyone had these same thoughts , had a second child and ended up happy with their decision?

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No, do not have a second child especially after reading all that you wrote:  You don't like being pregnant, the baby phase, or children and are happiest when they are sleeping or you are away from them. Does that sound like a person who should have another?  HELL NO.[/quote]

Agree.  I only have one and am thinking very deeply about having a second.  I know our life would be a lot easier if we stop at one, both emotionally and financially, but I just love being this kid's mom so damn much and he is such a joy.  Even when he kind of sucks, I love him so much, and I want to do this again with another baby.  It sounds like you're thinking of having a second because you feel you should, not because you want to.[/quote]

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