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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe buy a book on social skills to read over the summer.  This summer could she work with a Cognitive-Behavioral therapist on strategies to engage the people she eats meals with to go do some things out, like see a movie or watch shows together or study?  That seems like a good place to start.  They could come up with a number of strategies and ideas for invitations and role play how to ask.  Would your DD say she has social anxiety or is she at all depressed?  [/quote]
She's just a shy kid, a little awkward- super friendly, kind, and easy to get along with but is just quiet and [b]isn't great at putting herself out there.[/b] Also an introvert who needs alone time, which can be a bit of a challenge.

Also a bit overweight and had to get braces summer before starting college- braces come off in July and she's hoping to shed some pounds this summer so maybe that will help with confidence. [/quote]

The bolded is all the more reason to try the above suggestion regarding CBT. Sounds like she just needs a little help to build her confidence and strategies to take risks and make plans with people. My DC is like this. DC has an underlying expectation that peers won't want to hang out and there is fear of rejection. There may be more at play than just "shyness": fear of rejection, low self concept, perfectionism, lack of strategies or ideas or stock phrases of how to initiate, etc.

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