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[quote=Anonymous]My son has a good friend who has Asperger's who tends to relationships with women who, if not always actually unstable, certainly don't fit norms. The most bizarre one was a self-described artist who would cut herself and use her blood in her paintings (can't even say that was really the strangest thing about her). He's a very calm person, in some cases he's stayed in relationships to protect the woman.

OP, here is one thought: perhaps your DS doesn't have great skilled when it comes to calibrating emotional relationships. One thing your DS might watch out for is women who ratchet up the emotional connection very quickly. In our world of people having sex very quickly (no judgment, have done it myself) it is also easy, I think, for people to respond to what feels like an emotional connection that is arguably too soon.

But really, it is on DS to manage his own responses as opposed to "looking for warning signs". Unless your DS doesn't know how to discern normal from abnormal behavior to begin with, in which case HE has a problem. (Also, fwiw, I'd take issue with any assumption that someone who deals with MH issues should be considered poison when it comes to relationships, so let's not conflate "crazy" and mental illness unnecessarily). If he wants (key word) to avoid these situations, he can set some ground rules for himself when it comes to stages of involvement as well as skills for backing off at an earlier stage if a)he's actually not that excited about the relationship or b) he finds himself too excited, as in getting sucked into something.

May not be explaining it well. [/quote]

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